Why You Shouldn’t Bargain With Your Child
Recently while serving a customer I overheard her on the phone trying to strike a deal with her teenage daughter in an effort to get her to something. It sounded like a trade negotiation and I hope it had nothing to do with the child wanting to something like Botox. But why should that mother be bargaining with her child?
Parenting in the twenty first century is quite a complex issue. In the worldwide pursuit to give children back their rights, the world has unfortunately gone too far in liberating children from their parents will. This is what has led to many children these days being the willing bully of their own parents. This constantly puts parents in positions where they are forced to make bargains with their kids if they want to get them to do something. This is not a good idea at all and while it may seem to help in the current parent child relationship it will have more than a few negative effects on the child and parent later on.
One of the most notable effects of bargaining is that the child will no longer be able to draw a line between responsibilities and duties that they should be awarded for. Soon enough a child who is used to being bargained with will neglect responsibilities because they will feel that they have nothing to presently gain from undertaking such duties.
The second thing is that once you bargain with your child one or two times it will soon turn out to be a habit. A parent will find themselves forced to bargain and negotiate with their children in order to get them to do the simplest tasks even if it is just brushing their teeth. Such days will be moving from one bargain to the next and there may even come a time when the child will start raising the terms of the bargains. The children will want more for less and when the parent won’t deliver the children will most likely say no even to the previous terms of the bargain. Do not bargain with your children.
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